The #1 question I get – and the answer might surprise you.

Let’s get real: standing in front of a camera in lingerie (or anythinng at all) can feel so intimidating if you’ve never done it before. And if you’re wondering “What the heck do I even wear for a boudoir shoot?” – babe, you’re not alone.

The truth is, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer – because boudoir isn’t about fitting into a mold. It’s about expressing you. Your vibe, your confidence, your story. Boudoir is all about embracing your body, celebrating your unique beauty, and stepping into your power. The right wardrobe can make you feel like the badass goddess you already are.

Here’s my go-to guide for choosing pieces that will photograph beautifully – and most importantly – make you feel unstoppable.

1. Lingerie You Actually Love

you go for lace, satin, or something strappy, a set creates instant polish and coesion in your photos. Some client faves:

• A matching bra + panty set in a color that complements your skin tone
• A lacy bodysuit that gives a little extra structure
• A strappy set that highlights your curves in all the right places

Pro tip: Try on outfits beforehand and move around in them. You want to feel secure, not self-conscious. Black lace is timeless and sultry, while cream, blush, or sage can feel soft and romantic.

2. Something Cozy (and Surprisingly Sexy)

s add a relaxed, intimate feel that clients love.Think:

• Off-the-shoulder sweater with cheeky undies
• Unbuttoned flannel with a bralette underneath
• Your partner’s favorite T-shirt

This combo always hits that effortless, “this is just me being hot without trying” vibe.

Pro tip: Pair cozy layers with knee-high socks or barefoot shots for a soft, dreamy vibe.

3. Sheer or Statement Pieces

you want to bring a little drama or mystery, sheer pieces are chef’s kiss. Add a little extra flair with a sheer robe, kimono, or even a leather jacket. These create movement, texture, and a little “wow” factor in your gallery.

• A flowy, sheer robe or kimono
• A mesh bodysuit
• Fishnet, garters, or thigh-highs (total goddess energy)

These are especially gorgeous for silhouette or backlit shots.

Pro tip: Bring at least one piece that feels a little extra. You deserve it.

Bodysuits are one of my go-to recommendations because they flatter every shape and size. The elongate the body, smooth curves, and can be styled from elegant to edgy.

Pro tip: Choose a plunging neckline for a bold look, or sheer mesh for a playful vibe.

4. Accessories Matter

Some of the most powerful boudoir photos happen when you bring something personal: a favorite piece of jewelry, your wedding veil, or even your partner’s jersey. These little details elevate everything and make your session uniquely yours. Here’s what I recommend:

• Jewelry: gold hoops, layered necklaces, or a delicate anklet
• Heels or barefoot – depending on vibe
• Hats, silk scarves, or gloves (yes, really!)

Accessories help tell your story and give your images a styled, editorial edge.

Pro tip: Don’t be afraid to mix sentimental with sexy – it tells your story.

5. When in Doubt…Ask Me!

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. Once you book your session, I’ll send you a full prep guide (and we can chat about ideas). You can even send me outfit pics ahead of time and I’ll help you narrow down the best looks.

Final Thought:

It’s not what you wear – it’s how you feel in it.

When it comes to boudoir wardrobe, the golden rule is this: Wear what makes you feel amazing. Forget the “rules” and lean into pieces that make you feel confident, powerful, and beautiful.

Wear what makes you feel sexy, confident, and unapologetically YOU.

That’s the magic we’re going to capture.

And remember – you don’t have to figure this out alone. Every session with me at Destiny Roth Photography comes with guidance, prep tips, and support to help you feel fully ready.

Want a little extra help planning your outfit?

Grab my free Boudoir Confidence Prep Guide – it includes outfit inspiration, mindset tips, affirmations, and a confidence checklist to help you step into your session feeling unstoppable.